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In college, a white boy I once called a friend told me that I had hair like every Asian girl—long, straight, and black.  It was one of the most trivializing statements I have heard.  Needless to say, this comment marked a moment I began to drift away from this group of friends into a more intentionally developed group.  I started to identify with college activists of color.  I sat in the “black” section of the dining hall.  I had to confront my own ideas about classism and racism.  I’ve never told people this—but as many close friends as I had to sit with in that section, I always wondered if I was accepted and how I would be perceived in that space in the dining hall.  I knew though that there were too many similar struggles.  And I was not one to overlook the shared experiences we had of being silenced, erased, disrespected, and oppressed by the institution that we knew we were privileged to be at.  This point though is a story for another time.

My point is this—Asian Americans also have our own hair stories and our own hair traumas.  These hairstories are both political and non-political all at once.

After this happened, the next time I was in Oakland, I cut my hair into a short bob.  It looked horrible because my working-class consciousness only allowed me to go to the cheapest place I could find.  And, well, bringing a picture of Rihanna didn’t help my 70-year-old Asian male “hairstylist” any little bit either.  Luckily hair grows and so did I.

This short haircut marked an important period that I still believe has shaped the trajectory of the rest of my life.  I just finished taking a class on the Black Diaspora and was developing an internationalist perspective.  NAFTA and the WTO became terms in my back pocket.  I was building an academic relationship with a brilliant Leftist professor who would later advise me on my thesis.  I was becoming involved in political conversations in the 5-Colleges area about Asian American Studies.  I had my hair cut when I was in Oakland, just before I would fly to New York and catch a flight to the Dominican Republic.  I studied abroad there, which allowed me to visit Haiti and Cuba.  And on and on, the understanding and radicalism dug its roots deeper, and deeper still into me.

I kept my hair short and a year later, pierced my nose as a signifier of my politics.  There was no going back now.  The truth could not be unlearned.  It demanded that I lived it with integrity.  In my senior year, my advisor taught a class on Black Marxism, and we began a grueling (and self-imposed) timeline to research and write my senior thesis.  It still is one of the most focused years I have had in my life.  One I am proud of.

About a year after I got back to Oakland, I was thrust into a world of Vietnamese-American activism that I had never dreamed of.  My hair was cropped shorter. And shorter.

The politics and experiences continued to evolve.  To both my enjoyment and disappointment, my hair scared my parents into questioning my sexuality for a moment.  This is new because—to my parents—I am not a sexual being, and they will do anything to cling to that belief.  Also, I began teaching middle schoolers in Oakland and students commented on my short hair.  It didn’t bother me personally but made me ache to have more conversations about gender.  “Why is your hair like a boy’s?”  “Because I think this is beautiful too.  Because short hair can be woman’s hair.”

My own ideas about how to live my politics changed.  Every year could not be as intense as my last year in college.  I had been so angry the last few years of college.  And anger is important, but it was also deafening to ears that knew life was composed of other melodies.

Another point began to bug me.  Whose politics was I trying to live?  Was that white boy always going to live in this hair of mine?  What was I saying about the relationship between politics and presentation?  I was tired of carrying around a beehive of politics on my head.  I have nothing to prove to anyone, I thought.

Almost a year ago, I decided reluctantly that I would grow out my hair.  I thought to myself: the feminine doesn’t mean un-political, doesn’t mean conservative, doesn’t mean anti-revolutionary.  Neither does the feminine mean weak, timid, nor the other infinite words that exist to put-down women.  This was another choice I was making.  And free choices are revolutionary.  And breaking binaries is important.  And just another Asian girl with radical politics was here to shake things up.  Just another Asian girl and not just another Asian girl.

And as they tend to, these decisions coincided with moments of big change.  I was and am coming to consciousness about the ways that war, trauma, and family have affected me.  My earliest connections had taught me little or nothing about a functional, thriving love.  Granted, learning to survive, sacrifice, and act out of duty have my appreciation.  Yet it wasn’t and isn’t moving me nor my community forward.  The pain was over-flowing and impacting the decisions I was making about the people and relationships I was investing in.  So this time, I did not go home to the politics, it had already came home and roosted in me.  I had to begin healing.  I am working on this.  Remember, hair is growing and so am I.

So why these stories and why my long hair?  Because the white boy was right—I’m just like every Asian girl: too unique for him to understand. Because my identity and politics are stories that my hair alone cannot represent.  Because the next time some dude yells, “Me love you long time” out the back of a truck, I know it was never my fault, no matter the length of my hair.  Because femininity is more complex and messier than hair.  Because Asian Americans have our hair stories too.  Because—even though it may mark points in our development—hair is not the only signifier of our politics.  Because, really though, it is none of your business.


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O, thee with privilege (or how shall you light the world?)

Terras irradient
“Let them give light to the world.”
– Amherst College motto

I feel better this past month about the issues I’m going to raise below. But I wrote this because for the last year, I have been returning to a personal debate of what I should be doing and what I should be thinking of doing. Some of you know that I chose to not do Teach For America because I do not want to support the organization. I believe one voice makes a difference in challenging America to truly educate its citizens. So here I am taking out a loan for just my credential program and unsure if I even want to complete my masters in education because I do not know how long I want to teach. To complete the masters program is expensive and not necessarily sought after by the Oakland Unified School District.

Then I think about professorship. One day, I can’t imagine anything better to do. Worse, I get excited thinking about how I want to push and expand how the world understands history, culture, and race. Then the next day, I picture my soul being suffocated in an isolated ivory tower office. The lingering question in my mind is how much of my interest is about prestige? Is that the driving force of my desire to pursue more education? If I am such a big believer of working with the people, then why am I leaving them?

And why do I want to leave? Some days, I feel like I am gasping for air in Oakland. This will always be my (second) home, but I want more. The world has shrunken and I have lengthy arms that could work toward change in faraway places if I chose. This is the privilege of having the opportunities that I’ve had. Is it right to follow the path I believe I need, for now? What about the long view?

What do I owe?

It’s a question I will ask, always. I’ve rationalized over this plenty, of course. For now, I am thinking that while one person makes a difference, I am a human being (which is saying a lot but not much) amidst the workings of a much larger and deeper imperfect set-up. I am no martyr. People of color, working class peoples, and other people from disadvantaged backgrounds cannot be the only ones working to change this oppressive structure. So while I am a person who feels the responsibility of improving the lives of the disadvantaged, I refuse to existentially restrict myself to that load. I want to inspire and educate others to become Subjects of history. At the end of the day, I KNOW this. But some days, I don’t FEEL this. I feel guilt and uncertainty; the dual and reciprocating burden and freedom of my experiences.

“Life is to be lived, not controlled; and humanity is won by continuing to play in face of certain defeat.” –Ellison in Invisible Man

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for now, goodbye

I’ve definitely begun 5 posts to write about this past semester. I want to sum up the experience. I want to explain what it was. Yet I truthfully don’t think I can because I still don’t know what it was.

All I know is that I feel guilty when I buy things and I eat everything I put on my tray in Val. I am more critical of capitalism and my role in it. I can say some of the things I’ve seen and experienced has made me more ready and capable of thinking about my role in the world.

Although I am so happy to be at Amherst to see the 2008 commencement, I wish I wasn’t here. It’s hard not to hear about other people’s experiences abroad, which I think would really help me talk out how the DR has impacted me. Being asked repeatedly, “How was abroad?” doesn’t help either. My typical response is “Good.” The more and more I say this, the more I feel as if that one word answer actually sums up the last four months. Also, there is definitely a sense of loneliness too. Since I did not share this spring semester with the students here, I feel disconnected from them. I also understand that since I am simply HERE, without being involved in activities like I normally am during school, I feel even more distant from the community. I need to create in order to BE.

For now, I am done with this blog. Maybe I will return to it in a year if I happen to be working/researching/studying abroad. If you’re interested in reading a more personal blog of mine, let me know. I’ll send you a link.

As for now, I am ready to go home to Oakland as I have been ready for the past month. Maybe once I am in a place that feels more like home, I can turn off the “traveler” mentality I have and starting processing my past semester. At the same time, I need to start accepting that even Oakland will feel less like home.

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Ok I’m going to tell the truth and hopefully I will find some peace with it. I’ve been holding back my complaints because I’m overly critical and think complaints are a sign of weakness…

I know I will learn and become stronger from these things I don’t like here but I need to vent how I feel right NOW.
Things I hate.
when people talk “asian” to me. wtf is wrong with you?! and there are chinese-dominicans that live here. why are you so ignorant? i was speechless when this guy tries to speak to me in japanese and mandarin. if i was a guy i think he would have ended up with a bloody nose.
i feel like everyone wants to be on vacation BUT I DON’T WANT ONE! i miss Amherst (classes). i want a balanced experienced so i’m working but the entire system is frustrating… for example students cannot even explore the library stacks because someone “qualified” has to get my books for me.
things are so disorganized in classes and we never analyze or discuss anything. i’m fed up…
i hate have to be conscious when i go anywhere that i am a woman. the way women here are expected to look and carry themselves. the safety issues. the piropos.
and also, if you’re reading this now, i probably miss you.
(i feel better…)


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